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Workflow

Never lose touch

Your assistant reads your own message history — locally — and nudges you weekly about the friends who've gone quiet, with enough context to actually reach out.

Tools in this workflow

  • OpenClaw
  • iMessage

♻ Loopable — built to run on a schedule (e.g. a daily task)

Goal: be the friend who checks in, with a memory that doesn’t leak anywhere.

  1. Index locally — on a Mac, OpenClaw reads the iMessage database sitting on your own disk. Nothing is uploaded; the whole point of self-hosting is that this data never leaves your machine.
  2. Score the silence — it maps how often you talk to each person and flags the drift: the college friend at 47 days, your cousin at three months.
  3. The Sunday nudge — once a week, a short list: who’s gone quiet, what you last talked about, anything coming up for them that you mentioned before.
  4. Draft the opener — “ask how the new job started” beats “hey, long time.” You send it yourself — outsourcing the remembering is the feature; outsourcing the friendship would be the bug.

The same local archive supports more: transcribed voice messages, semantic search over years of conversations (“when did we plan that trip?”), and a quiet history of what matters to the people who matter to you.